My youngest son is getting married in a few weeks. The last of the weddings for this generation of my family. We are in the midst of a flurry of wedding plans, reception decorations, and missing-address-hunting! (Where IS Uncle David?) We are still trying to find the right tablecloths, and a shirt for the groom to wear with his kilt. The quilt is underway, but incomplete. And we still have flowers and the cake to finalize. (The bride’s parents aren’t in the picture, so we’re helping with most of the planning and arrangements. Kinda fun; really crazy!)
Meanwhile, life goes on. Academics, gardening, child-care, teething, and everyone still wants to eat three times a day. My husband has been out-of-town for training. Our older son and his wife are away for Air Force schooling, and are trying to find a way to get here for the big day. My sons-in-law are working on their medical practicum/ master’s degree paper respectively. It’s okay though. We can do this! There are five strong women working to make it all happen. While our men go out and work at slaying the dragons and providing for their families, we are on the job. Last week the grandsons did more worksheets and games for academics while the women created shower invitations and got them ready to mail. Library day is being shared with trips to the fabric/craft store. And the to-do list is beginning to shorten.
This would be so much more difficult if my future daughter-in-law was timid. She’s not. At all. Decisions are made quickly and then we move on to whatever is next on the list. The perfect dress was the ONLY one she liked. Their cake will be a combination of a few different elements from various cakes out there (and will suit the two of them perfectly). There has been a lot of “yes!” or “no way!” around our house as we explore pinterest, books, and ads. (My daughters and I have done this before and are kinda the “steering committee” so that all the bases get covered.) We cook, clean, and talk all the while; lots of final decisions have been made while stirring the pasta or chasing the twins. Multi-tasking is a gift which is saving our sanity right now! And will allow us to have joy on the big day!
While we are to be meek, obedient, and humble, no where in scripture does it instruct us to be weak, mousy, or inept. It is really very difficult to accomplish anything of importance in this life if we are busy feeling as though we should be second-guessing ourselves and doubting our abilities. The titles “Daughter of God” and “second-class citizen” do not work well together. Nor should they. I know where I need work, but I also recognize the gifts and talents I am responsible to develop. So are my girls. Bring it on.
In the next three weeks we will finish the flowers, make 30 loaves of bread for the reception, and keep the garden from dying. The lawn will get mowed. Meals will be prepared. Decisions will continue to be made, goals will be accomplished, prayers of gratitude will be said, and I will find time for a nap.